When Your Kids Push You Over the Limit…Again.

I call this NINJA PARENTING TIP #47! 

Introducing…The Rewind Button

How Tracing Paper and a Picture Book Transformed our Morning Routine…This Week

Mornings with children are not for the faint of heart. They signal a time of excitement (because that’s how many children are) and yet, a time of separation and resistance to moving forward in an orderly routine. They are often rushed.  And let’s face it. We are never at our best when we’re running late.tracing paper jaguar

In our house, each morning I aim to find a healthy balance between drill sergeant and camp counselor extraordinaire. Getting 3 kids fed, dressed, brushed, pottied and into the car (without destroying our relationship) in under 45 minutes is a feat I don’t take lightly. Especially because one of my kids has no interest in this routine.   

For him, I’m always searching for the next shiny object that will motivate him to get his butt on the potty and hang out with me until the deed is done. The bathroom is my office. We have a tray for his lap and a host of books, card games and toys to lure him forward and keep him busy. But, ho hum, “THIS IS ALL SO BORING!” he informed me the other day. Which explains why we were running late the last three days.  

Enter tracing paper idea. [Read more…]

When Roughhousing Gets Out of Hand…

Learn 3 Hot Tips for How to Handle Roughhousing, Wrestling and Play Fighting.  In this short video, I talk about the benefits, the house rules and what NOT to say.

If You Haven’t Already….

For those that don’t know, I have a list of 10 Mantras that I use to guide my parenting, my coaching practice and the content for my Rock Your Inner Mama CD.  These mantras work for me when I’m struggling in my parenting.  And I like to keep them handy.  But I also like to encourage parents to figure out the mantras that work best for them.  So, what do you say to yourself when the going gets tough?  What reminders would you want to put on your refrigerator?  

Not sure?  Get a copy of mine to print and post on your fridge for inspiration.   They look nice (thanks to my loving and talented husband) and they are definitely a place to start when you need a few affirmations and reminders.  Now go out and Rock Your Inner Mama.

Parents: Top 8 Tips for Reading “Tips” Articles

Have you noticed that parenting articles and mom bloggers seem to rule the internet?  As I try to break into “the industry” of making a living (and a difference) supporting parents, I’m consistently advised to write articles offering Tips and Tricks for parents.  You know the articles because you love to read them and the titles always catch your eye.  “Top 5 Ways to Instantly Potty Train Your Child.”  “The 7 Steps to Bully Proof Your Kid.”  “3 Surprising Secrets Every Mom Should Know.”  “How to End Whining with 3 Simple Techniques.” 

I resist and I resist.  And I wonder, “Why?”  Why can’t I crank out these articles like every other parenting guru…especially if that’s what it takes to catch your eye?  Perhaps because I don’t know your children as well as you do.  And while I know a lot about parenting and how to help you design a rocking parenting plan for your own family, I can’t do it without tapping into your infinite knowledge about your unique child, your strengths as a parent and your willingness to create and execute what it takes to make a difference in your life. 

So, perhaps this will help.  I’ve put together a little list to push through my own sludge of resistance and to help us all manage the sensory overload of Tip Articles once and for all. 

Here, Moms and Dads, are my 8 Tips for Reading Tip Articles: [Read more…]

To Do It or Not To Do It?

Many couples grapple with the big question, “Should we have a baby?”  Or they grapple with “Should we have another?” 

As a parent coach and mom of three boys, including a 9 week old, this topic is near and dear to my heart. Here’s where I stand on the issue:

You’ll know it’s time to have a baby when:

1. The pro/con scale tips- At some point the pros of having a baby will outweigh the cons. If you’re not sure, it probably hasn’t happened yet. Pay close attention to the items on your pro and con list and reevaluate regularly.

2. The stars align– If you and your partner are on the same page abouthaving a baby, that’s one good sign that the timing is right. Choosing the right time to have a baby is a judgment call, and in this case, two opinions are better than one. [Read more…]

Are You Ready to Rock Your Inner Mama

Have you ever stopped and noticed yourself being amazing?  We all have those parenting moments when things are just working and we’re proud of how we’re doing.  And then there are those other moments.  Those moments when things just aren’t working.  Our frustration yields impatience or impulsivity and our ability to operate from our deepest parenting values disintegrates.  In those moments, the background conversation is usually something disempowering and negative.

While these thoughts may never cease, we can train our minds to replace them quickly with positive thoughts.  One thing we know from research is that, be they conscious or not, thoughts always precede action.  So, why not take a stab at adding more positive thoughts to your inner dialogue? 

One great way to do this is with mantras.  Mantras are simple statements that you can repeat frequently to reverse your downward spiral of negative thinking.   By paying closer attention to what you want (vs. what you don’t want), you’re training yourself to have positive thoughts that will precede positive actions.  And I won’t lie.  It takes practice.  And here are some examples.    [Read more...]

I’ve Got One Hand In My Pocket

For me, summer camp represents a time and place filled with special memories, deep learning and great fun. Many memories have stuck with me. This morning, I woke up- struck by an old favorite.

I don’t remember the exact scenery, but I remember the lesson. It was an old Jewish tale about a Rabbi (18th century Hassidic Rabbi Simcha Bunem, thanks google!) who said we each have two pockets. In one pocket, we carry a note that says, “I am dust and ashes.” In the other pocket, we carry a note that says, “For me, the world was created.” There’s a time and place for each of these notes depending on the situation. Sometimes, we need to reach into one pocket and check our ego at the door, find our own humility and remember that we are but a speck in the universe. At other times, we reach for the other pocket when we're feeling discouraged or worthless and need a gentle reminder that we are each unique, significant and central to the lives of others.

Recalling this story, I felt newly empowered to dance between the many dichotomies that parenting presents. Not least of which includes the struggle between enjoying these precious years and wishing they’d pass more quickly.

From now on, I’ll keep one note in my pocket that says, “Cherish every moment, for these tender years go so fast.” In the other pocket, I’ll keep a note that says, “This too shall pass.” That way, when one son is biting and the other one goes weeks without eating a vegetable and the other one isn’t sleeping through the night, I won’t feel badly pulling out the note that says, “This too shall pass,” because I’ll always know there’s another note waiting for me when I’m ready to read it. And when I’m ready, I’ll become instantly present to cherishing the gift of the early years.

"This too shall pass"

"Cherish Every Moment"

What parenting moments pull you in two directions?
What will the notes in your pockets say?

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